Basically, we all have gone through this, the bad boy we fall for, the hard attachments, the sweetest feelings and
The most torturing as well, and they all told us... stay way from it, it's bad for your health, the tears , the pain, the broken promises , the small and the huge Tragedies , the anger , the fights , those moments you feel defeated and pathetic, waking up all night, devastated and in despair….
Loving him was hell on earth, but dreaming and fantasizing about him, was Heaven on earth ' forbidden heaven' longing, trying, and thinking, craving your lost paradise every minute of the day…
And then you go reading about it, talking to your friends and they tell you, you're so unlucky it doesn't worth the effort or the pain, just forget about him and things like that, but here I am telling you this is ONE of the BEST struggles for your life journey and here we are listing the reasons simple enough for you to get convinced….
1st you will be stronger:
Yes, our emotions are just like anything else in our body, in our being, it needs exercise…
Practicing and actually learning with healthy directions simply like our muscles, to be even more clear about it 'like an athlete as a beginner 'or ' a baby learning to walk' it hurts a lot at the beginning, but the only difference is we all are aware that it is beneficial, unlike most of the people who are now ignoring the fact that our emotions needs to be strengthened
2nd you will connect to your feminine side even more:
Of course, this challenging relationship will push you to higher levels of being your truest self…
And one side of it is your gender, your femininity so; simply said probably after every fight or breakup our minds used to think ' he was such a jerk see what he did to you' but what if you did it as ' an assignment'
Studying the experience, remembering the clicking moments, when he was turned on… the day you were so confident in your hottest jeans with this fresh fragrance, looking the sexiest in your favorite sunglasses, Just putting those memories on paper, on your mind and considering one small step, as saying to yourself I will increase those moments whether in this same challenging relationship or in another…
3rd learning to dig your way up:
Crying all night, can't go to school or Work, staying at home, feeling really bad, you can't even talk about it, and believe me, that's a good thing, but now you will start to consider those words ' I am responsible for my own happiness' it is my job to be happy and at ease, yes, this yesterday experience was disappointing ' but today is a new day' and I will do my best to put a smile on my face, this hot bath, this special hot pasta, fresh air walking my dog, trying to feel better today I will recover, NOTHING can put me down, you say…
Believe me, when I tell you this, our skills in a relationship don't make any difference than our skills in business or sports field to succeed at, shit happens, and yes, we meet challenging people or situations, it doesn't make any difference, getting yourself up is the most precious skill you can acquire and it is essential for your success in anything in life.
4th you are now hugely motivated:
Motivated to be better, you know this feeling of I will prove them wrong, this is one of the best ways for boosting your level of energy ever, oh GOD! the game is on and you are fired up with anger and challenged spirit, I will let him know his loss, so, it is known that, everyone else will simply say he doesn't deserve you, you are too good for him, but, being honest to yourself is the most rare and precious ever ' be Daring to face it' Truth won't bite , be easy about it, use this for your growing, in everything about your life , how you look , your level of happiness , your level of enthusiasm, to be more, achieving more , the funny thing is when you achieve this level of improvement, your self esteem is higher than ever and now he doesn't even count anymore , seeing him now feels differently, he is actually looking at you the way you've been dreaming about many nights before.
5th you are facing your fears:
Your heart is FREE , you are going through things you never thought you'd go, he is testing your limits, and this day you cried yourself to sleep 'wasn't the end of your life' you are absolutely now freer than before , you go through adventures , your heart is beating so hard the Adrenaline levels is so high, and every time it's a changing experience, you are in Transformation and actually you're rediscovering yourself, because you're doing things you have never thought you'd do , good things , even the bad , wasn't that bad either, it was only different.. And sure, we can tell the benefits of the newness we are living.
6th you discovered you can live out of the box:
We all dream about those sweet, simple, traditional frames of a relationship, and yes, this is good for all of us, but living the challenge is absolutely important for you too, if you still in a process of getting more mature emotionally and strengthening yourself more, you simply will discover that this unnamed relationship is one of the strongest, most provoking ever... the craziness, the impulses, the passionate sex, the magic in his eyes, the glittering air with all the fairytale feelings, actually exist, and yes, you are living it, in those sweet, peaceful moments of your relationship with him, and what you are living is one of the most unique and soft feelings ever.
7th you learn to love yourself more than anything in this universe:
Sooner or later, we learn this amazing lesson the hard way or the easy way, it doesn't matter, but this is essential for your beautiful life journey, your success, and your healthy relationship. You learn to appreciate yourself with your weak points, to acknowledge your strong points, giving yourself before anyone else in the world credit and encouragement, being tender and sweet to yourself, looking in the mirror and saying to yourself ' how special and how beautiful you are' because sweetheart love attracts more love, appreciation attracts more appreciation , it all starts from within , life is a mirror, reflecting back all what we feel and hide inside, loving yourself will activate love all around you.
8th you unconditionally love 'the easy way':
Unconditional love, we all hear about it, they say it makes wonder and they are right, let's see how this is working here, you are hooked to him, this hot guy, you love him, this thing is complicated, confusing and challenging only two options here:
1-you walk away knowing all the lessons, knowing exactly what you want in your next relationship
2-or the hard way, already attached, trying your way through any way.
Now, let's make it clear here ' loving him more is our second option, I will try again, you say or I really can't stop thinking about him, do not resist or it will get worse, let it be, Fall all the way down and see how your love can transform your own life in such a magical, magnificent, masterpiece, even touches his life forever.
9th you learn to relax:
In this hot and cold, up and down, stressing and exhilarating experience, we learn this, JUST RELAX….life isn't that serious anyway , let's put it here simply , everything in this life is a GAME, we humans tend to complicate things, make it dramatic, but actually if you just remember, this is one Area of your life that's no difference from any other , now the secret for winning , actually the secret for staying alive is to Relax , take it easy , breathe more, try to reach for more comfort in your life.
10th you learn to enjoy the odds:
Yes, weirdly said I know, but, you know, if we asked any athlete again about his secrets of triumph, he'll say that I loved the pain, going back home sore was my treat and every minute of it was rewarding, it's never the moment of winning, it's your journey toward it, it's never the wedding day, it's all the sweetness and the fun on your way through, even if you didn't reach the finish line, so what! Loving, living every minute of it is actually the POINT, walking through with your heart pouncing, bombing , your stumbling feet, your sparkling eyes , your glamorous outlooks…are actually all that counts..
Now remember everything changes if you change the way you look at it, the way you perceive it…
Have a good, hard, satisfying, life changing, love story…
May your days be Wonder-full.
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